On Being Present

On Wednesday I received a message from a friend. These words stood out: "Solange", "private show", "noon", "PAMM", "tomorrow", "hurry!" A Seat At The Table has quickly become one of my favorite albums and I immediately get a ticket. 

Oh, and one more thing. "They'll take your phone for the show." Ok. 

I went alone. It would be my experience. It was undoubtedly one of the most special performances I've ever witnessed - the choreography, the incredible music, the soul, the heart, the energy was delicious. We were enclosed in one of the private auditoriums and it felt like we were in the most amazing dream. 

For the first 15 minutes or so, I found my hands reaching for my phone (that wasn't there) to somehow document what I was witnessing. 

When my brain finally realized that this was it, that the present moment was my one chance to take this in and live it, that's what I did. I made friends with the people around me, I danced with strangers, I sang out loud, I was so aware and fully living it, and on several occasions the #blackgirlmagic I was witnessing moved me to tears.

And I didn't have my phone. I didn't document it and yes, it really happened. 

I spend my days helping women show up authentically online. I certainly don't intend for online to be the only way we show up. I'm coming to understand just how deeply our addiction to our phones is impacting and limiting how we live. 

The past few days I've been charging my phone outside of my bedroom at night, I've been putting my phone in separate case in my bag to make it less accessible. I also have my son call me out if he sees me grab my phone while I'm driving.

I want to live more tapped into what I felt at that concert. I want to live alive and awake and present, and look at people in the eye without reaching for my phone. And yes, later, with time consciously set aside - I want to write beautiful content reflective of my experiences and my point of view and - also - connect with people online.  

Have a wonderful - and present- week!